I always hear people say, “When I’m looking my worst is the time people notice me.” You know those times when you don’t have on the fancy clothes, your good wig, nice haircut and face beat. Those times when you are ‘running’ to the store, with your lounging clothes on, is when men want to talk. Or when you haven’t had a haircut but women are noticing you. Well, have you ever stopped to think, this is because they can see the real you and not what you portray? When a man can see you, in your glory and still wants to add to your story; that’s worth talking about. When a woman can see you with your dirty work clothes and hands and she still wants a chance; that’s worth talking about. Don’t misunderstand me. You are real cute with your face beat but who are you at home? Yea, you look real good, sir, in that suit but how do you look in gym shorts and t-shirt? Who are you when you go to bed because that’s who your spouse will see? Just maybe, in Lakisha’s thinking, this is the reason folk want to ‘holler’ at you when you think you look your worst. The fact of the matter is, it has nothing to do with you looking your worst but more about you looking your worth. Your real worth and not the one that can be created with clothes and makeup. The person you are, after you get home and take off your shoes and your bra. The person you are, after you get home and remove your suit and conference room talk. That’s the person people want to see. They want to see your worth and sometimes, that may be when you are looking (in your words) your worst.
“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous–how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!” – Psalm 139:14-17
Lakisha, the Author 