Lakisha, the Author

Life is but a Vapor

If you follow me on social media, then you’ve probably seen my posts.

On Saturday, October 10, 2026, our family endured the sudden and devastating passing of my nephew, 17-year-old Katron Walker, Jr. from a car accident.

And while our hearts are broken, the outpouring love we’ve received from all over, especially Texas (where he’d been for four months) has been amazing. To see the impact he’s had in such a short time gives us comfort.

So, thank you. Thank you for the prayers. Thank you for the calls, texts, social media posts, and messages. Thank you!

Please don’t stop praying.

Arrangements are pending.

Remembering Katron

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Not in God’s script

In a horror movie, most of the time, the people running never get away from the thing they fear. It doesn’t matter where they run and hide, that thang they fear will still be lurking on the other side of the tree, door, or field.

You know why? Because they never deal with it.

Sure, the movies are scripted but your life is written too and God is the producer. We may not know how things will “end,” but God does and that’s who we trust. Not the thing chasing us because what I do know is this. Bible says in Second Timothy 1:7, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

Read this clearly. This isn’t easy. Yet, not being fearful doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid. It simply means you trust who has written this scene of your life.

So, what are you running from that needs to be dealt with? What fear do you need to overcome? What secrets or scars are you hiding from that have yoked you in the darkness because you’re fearful of them coming out? What are you getting ready to face that has your stomach in knots?

What is it, boo?

Whatever it is, declare it no longer has power because YOU DO! Stand up, steady yourself, and prepare to swing baby because you won’t be the one to die in this scene.

Not in God’s script!

💚

It’s not them, boo!

Some of you swear you want a mentor until they start mentoring the hell out of you.

Truth is, some of you need a mentor, but your flesh won’t allow it!

’Cause see, them times they tell you to hush, your flesh says they’re being mean. When they tell you to take down the post, flesh will swear they’re hating. When they say you’re not ready to move, flesh will make you believe they’re jealous. When they tell you to wait, flesh will tell you that you don’t need to.

It’s not them, playa. IT’S YOU!

And the quicker you realize that correction is not rejection, the quicker you’ll understand the value of having somebody in your life who can see what you can’t.

See, a real mentor isn’t always going to tickle your fancy and tell you what you want to hear. A real one will ruffle your feathers and tell you what you need to hear. You know like, fall back on that relationship because it’s changing you and not for the good.

They’re going to check you when you’re out of order. They’re going to slow you down when your emotions are moving faster than your wisdom. They’re going to tell you when your attitude is the problem. They’re going to make you question your motives.

And you ain’t gonna like it. Well baby, you’re going to have to learn how to sit down, shut up, and listen to the correction without turning the corrector into the enemy.

If you want the help.

Because everybody who challenges you isn’t jealous of you, everybody who tells you no isn’t trying to stop you and everybody who disagrees with you isn’t against you.

Sometimes God will put somebody in your life who loves you enough to interrupt your flesh before it ruins your future.

So if you’ve prayed for a mentor, stop looking for a cheerleader because a mentor who never corrects you isn’t mentoring you, they’re managing your emotions.

My NOW is sacred.

A memory from my blog showed that I shared this six years ago.

Baby, it’s still true.

See, I’ve come to understand that sometimes our comfort can quickly become discomfort because of who we’re around and where we are. This is why you must protect your NOW. What’s your now? It’s your current place, condition, mental capacity, happiness, relationship, job, business, church, blessing … you get it.

Why is this important? Because if you don’t protect it, who will (outside of God)? And if you don’t protect it, there’s a risk it can be tainted. Therefore, be mindful of the invitations you extend and accept. Be mindful of who you call when you’re going through. Be mindful of who you vent to. Be thoughtful of those you trust with your spiritual life.

And at all times be in prayer!

Understand me … this isn’t something that happens overnight because coming to terms with the fact that there may be people you have to disconnect from is hard. But it’s necessary. It’s necessary for your survival, sanity and spiritual walk.

So, beloved, protect your NOW.

As for me, I’m protective of my NOW because I realize everybody who smiles at me may not be good to or for me. I’m defensive of my NOW because I don’t need any dark spirits penetrating my home or my spirit. And I’m unapologetic about my NOW because I don’t owe anybody an explanation.

My NOW is sacred. What about yours?

HEAL YOU, SIS!

Dear Sis,

I apologize for being the bearer of this gut wrenching news but ….

You cannot be mad at ALL men simply because you’ve made the mistake of choosing ALL the wrong ones. Well, you can but why should all men men pay for the consequences of your mistake?

Please hear me with your heart. God isn’t mad at you. You’re angry at yourself which is manifesting in your belief that all men are the same or will treat you the same.

They are not and they will not.

Here’s the part that may hurt, even more … you’ll never be able to see or accept this until you heal. Sis, you’ve got to heal from the PTSD that comes with the trauma you’ve experienced. You’ve got to heal from the brokenness. You’ve got to heal from the abandonment. You’ve got to heal from the unkept promises. You’ve got to heal from the hurt. You’ve got to heal from the what the last one wouldn’t do.

Why? So that you can see what the REAL ONE WILL DO!

Sis, take some time to heal! No, I mean for real. Don’t get into another relationship. Don’t attach yourself to a situationship. Don’t link up for Netflix and Chilling. Shoot, don’t even accept a drink date right now. HEAL YOU! Before you give yourself to anybody else, other than God.

– Put God first – If God isn’t first, how can He approve them?
– Take yourself out – If you can’t spend time with self, you definitely can’t spend time with somebody else.
– Boost your own confidence – If you don’t believe in you, how can you convince somebody else to?
– Love you – If you don’t know how to love you, how will you know when someone else does?
– Trust God and yourself – If you don’t, you’ll never fully trust anybody else

Not all men are bad and the one meant for you, will find you when you stop sabotaging you. Beloved, it’s time for you to experience real love and your soft girl era.

Sincerely,
A sister who wants you to be happy.