#DailyDevotional — Asking for a friend

There is so much suicide, division, divorce, severed relationships, hurt and pain. There are strongholds gripping families like never before. Demonic spirits are smothering the sanctity of worship places. Mental illness is on the rise and it is taking over generations. And for the sake of “keeping quiet,” we are losing. There are ministry leaders on the verge of suicide, wives at their breaking point, husbands who feel as if they are drowning, daughters who are using sex and sons who use drugs and guns as an escape. There are people in pain and we can no longer sugar coat the situation.

It is time we move away from the patty cake preaching and offer the meat of God’s word. Too many Christians are dying due to being malnourished because the church is still feeding milk when their body needs meat. Even a baby gets solid food at six months yet here we are, at age 50 and barely functioning. Yes, milk is good but the protein from meat is important for building bones and muscles, repairing tissues and strengthening the blood. This is why the bible says in Hebrews 5:13-14, “For someone who lives on milk is still an infant and doesn’t know how to do what is right. Solid food is for those who are mature, who through training have the skill to recognize the difference between right and wrong.”

Please understand, we have a responsibility to seek God, study and learn for ourselves but what happens when I need to be around folk who are going through what I am or when I need to be in the midst of folk who have been in my shoes without being judged? Where can I go and get help instead of being hated on because my dress looks better than hers? Where can he go and get delivered instead of being talked about because he looks feminine? Where can families go and worship without folk prying into their business? Where can she go and get help instead of being labeled a church hopper?

Beloved, I don’t know about you but I am sick of going to into a place of worship to be healed yet all I hear is “will a man rob God?” I am tired of seeing posts after posts about another person killing themselves because everybody posted “Praying for you,” but nobody actually did. I am tired of hearing the typical scriptures with a different title but same inadequate message. When will we reach that young person whose whole life is social media by way of social media? When will we get out of traditions and into scriptures? When will we stop catering to flesh and start consecrating the spirit? I’m asking for a friend!

Daily Devotional – 10/13/21 “Trust God with you”

There used to be a time I’d spend my lunch renewing check advances, a title loan, and juggling the remaining house bills. Afterwards, sitting in my car with no appetite because the harsh reality was, we were in over our heads and there really wasn’t much left to spare. See, we got married young and life happened fast. We bought our first house young and it was a rip off, so after ten years, we decided to give it back to the bank. Then we moved into an apartment whose rent was more than it’s worth. We were in over our heads.

Until one day, I’d had enough. I was tired of running from God and sick of being in struggle. If you’ve been following me, you know my testimony. (Read a little here.) No, I didn’t get a seven-figure job, I held the same one. Book royalties didn’t skyrocket. Truth is, I didn’t see a return on it until 2018. I didn’t hit the lottery. I came into an inheritance and God was the benefactor.

What changed?

My willingness to be obedient and trust God. Understand when I write this … Obedience doesn’t take away suffering, pain, heartache, sickness and enemies but Bible says in Isaiah 1:19-20, “If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land; but if you refuse and rebel, you shall be eaten by the sword; for the mouth of the LORD has spoken.”

I’ve shared this again for somebody who woke up, fed up and tired because no matter what you do or how you pray, you cannot seem to make it stop. Well, what area of your life are you being disobedient in? Take a reflective look and be honest with yourself and then be willing to change. Look, I’m not saying every day since, for us, have been all great, they haven’t. There is stuff I still try to fix, but then I remind myself if God did it before, He’ll do it again.

Sure, it easy for me to say when your checking account is low, you’re between pay periods, family need to eat and you’re staring at a cut off notice. Yet, will you trust God with you, your family, your finances, and your faith? Bible tells us in Job 22:21-25, “Submit to God, and you will have peace; then things will go well for you. Listen to his instructions and store them in your heart. If you return to the Almighty, you will be restored—so clean up your life. If you give up your lust for money and throw your precious gold into the river, the Almighty himself will be your treasure. He will be your precious silver!”


Your girl is in a magazine!

A few months back, I had the honor of connecting with Mrs. Ann Marie Bryan who wanted to feature me, ME (queue squeals), in the premiere issue of Victorious by Design Magazine.

Can you say excited? Say it with me … EX-CIT-ED!!

That was me child because I’m simply someone who’s being intentional about her God given purpose. While I’m minding my good ole business, God is placing me on the mind of amazing women like Mrs. Ann. #workGod

I never thought I’d be a writer, shoot. I never pictured myself as a preacHER, author, blogger or anything else. Thank God, His plans for me outweighed mine.

Now, I get to meet people like you who support me release after release. (K, let me stop before I become a sobbing mess.)

Today y’all, the premiere issue of Victorious by Design is now LIVE and it’s FREE.


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Daily Devotional – 10/6/21 “Making You Ready!”

Sometimes we have to go through a period of confinement. A time of feeling like everything is being shaken up, yet nothing is settling. You find yourself up at night staring at the ceiling or feeling as if you’re alone. A time you feel stuck and not moving.

I’ve been there, asking myself hard questions. Am I the one holding me up? Am I fearing what’s next? Am I secretly hindering my own progression? Is it me? When will things change?

So, I cry out to God. “Father, will this end?”

Him replying, “Yes daughter, but this is your period of confinement.”

“But God, why do I need to be confined?”

His reply, “Because I’m making you ready.”

“Okay God, but why confinement?”

His reply, “To keep folk from taking credit for getting you there.”

I reply, “My bad God, I’m in your business.”

Let me help somebody today. You aren’t being overlooked, you’re being confined. Sounds crazy, but did you know one definition for confinement is the condition of being in childbirth? Baby, this blessed me and it made sense. See, you have to limit access because everybody can’t be in the delivery room and since you can’t make the hard decisions, God will.

Therefore, He’ll snatch us from people who’ll want to take credit for what you’ve struggled to birth. You’ll be in labor and they’ll be the one screaming. You carried and birthed what they’ll try to name. You haven’t even given them permission and they’ve already posted pictures on social media.

This is why God will take you from the grip of “mentors” who’ll gloat over being the reason you pushed. God will sever ties with those ‘spiritual mothers/fathers’ who desire to be on the birth certificate and they didn’t have anything to do with it. And since you don’t have the strength to cut them off, He’ll do it.

Yes, it hurts. Yes, it seems lonely. Yes, it may be a long process, but let God be God. Trust Him with you because you’ve tried everything and everybody else. And if nothing else, know this … You’re being prepared, not passed over. Stay the course beloved. Stay the course.

Devotional — 9/17/21 “Dear Life”

Dear Life,

Mane, you’ve thrown me a few curve balls lately. Just when I thought I had everything planned and things were starting to fall into place, you come and shake stuff up. I was happy then death hit my house, leaving me with pain in places I didn’t know could hurt. I was making plans then sickness showed up and sat me down. I was getting ready to travel until Covid-19 shut the world. I was finally getting out of debt, then I lost my job. I thought I’d dealt with the burden abuse left me with, but quarantine showed me I’d only covered it. I thought I was healed, but you showed me I was simply hiding. Car broke down, kids acting up, dog ran away, depression talking to me … If it isn’t one thing, it’s another.

Man, life. Will things get better? Will the storm ever stop? Will I heal? Will my tears dry up? Life, please answer because I’m tired.

Signed with a sigh,

Life replying …

Dear Me,

While I wish I could tell you every day will be easy, it won’t. Truth is, you must endure these parts of me as well. You don’t get to love me when it’s easy and leave me when it’s hard. We’re in this together. And stop blaming me, I’m only doing the responsibility of my job. For it was our creator whose authority spoke, “To everything, there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.

Yes, I show up without warning sometimes, bringing stuff I wish I didn’t have to; but it’s my job. I know it can hurt, but it’s my job. Yet, here’s what I also know. You’re stronger than you think you are. The gray skies of grief, they’ll lighten. The dark nights of depression, they’ll get better. The strong wind of woes, they’ll cease. The heavy downpour of tears, they’ll stop. Yes, you may lose a job, go through breakups, suffer through death, get sick, be lied on, fall, fail, or even feel stuck; yet you’re stronger than you think you are.

Here’s my advice, prepare for what you can and pray for what you can’t. Trust what you can see, faith what you can’t. Do what you can, let God do what you can’t.

It’s hard, some days, but don’t take any days for granted because one day, I’ll end.

Signed with the hope you’ll try again,

Midnight Prayer

Tonight, as I lay on the couch, I decided to share this again because somebody needs it. Maybe it’s you, the grandmother dealing with grieving grandchildren and cries silently while they sleep, the mother who’s weeping with the eviction notice in her hand, the father who is stressed out because he can’t find a job, the uncle who’s tired from carrying the weight of his family, the aunt who’s secretly fighting a sickness, the sister who’s been having thoughts of suicide, the brother who has seen more friends buried this year than in his lifetime, the cousin who is fearful of the call on their life, the niece who’s afraid to admit her sexuality, the nephew who’s hiding the fact he’s been sexually assaulted, the daughter who’s being bullied and the son who’s been abusing his wife … I’m praying!

I’m praying for the nurse who had to watch another patient die alone, the doctor who has to deliver news that another mother’s son didn’t make it out of surgery, the fireman who couldn’t save the grandmother’s house, the police officer who’s struggling with the job, the EMT who’s stretched thin, but can’t afford to quit, the lawyer who watched his innocent client take a plea to save his/her life, the pastor who’s trying to balance his/her family & church finances, the teacher who’s trying to figure out how to clothe the child, in her class, that’s in need, the business owner who thought about closing twenty times today, the delivery driver who had to pick up extra shifts to cover their child’s school fees despite being tired … I’m praying!

I’m praying for you, my brother and sister. I’m praying for your release, your healing, your strength, your faith, your joy to be returned, for the addiction to be broken, for you to love again, for you to be loved again, for you to heal so that you can stop hurting people, for somebody to take notice and stop the bullying, for your protection, for resources, for your prayer life, your personal life and for your spiritual life. I’m praying for your mind, body, and soul. I’m praying you survive this. I’m praying because you must survive this.

I’m praying for you, mane! ❤️