Lucy had been working with Maria for almost three years. Every once in a while, Maria would come in with bruises and she’d cry at her desk. After a few times, Lucy started documenting stuff. One day, Maria comes in and Lucy could tell she had a black eye so when she caught her in the bathroom, she offered to help but Maria said no. Lucy wouldn’t stop. Every day, she’d stop by Maria’s desk with words of encouragement. She’d bring her breakfast some days and had even started sending her daily devotionals. One day Lucy is called into the office by HR who told her, a complaint had been filed against her for harassment. They told her that she’d need to stay away from Maria or she would be fired. After the meeting, Lucy was devastated. All she wanted to do was help but what she hadn’t realized, it wasn’t her fight.
When I took a class, a few years ago, to get a gun license, one of the things that was overly stressed was, never jump into anyone else fight. For one, you don’t know why they are fighting and two, it isn’t your fight. Please understand, I am in no way saying you can’t help people but what I am saying is, choose your battles wisely. Don’t take on somebody else fight when they didn’t ask for your help to begin with. Stop jumping into other folk’s battles when you may be the one they end up turning on. Don’t get caught up in trying to help everybody fight because you’ll end up broken, battered and bruised; with them standing on the side without a scratch. Know when it’s your fight and when it’s not. Beloved, you can’t save everybody. Stop reaching to lay hands on folk who didn’t ask for it. Stop trying to cover folk who aren’t ready to be. Stop fighting for someone spiritually, when you don’t even know what they are fighting with.
Look, taking on someone else fight means you are taking on their weight. And trying to fight for someone spiritually, without knowing what they are dealing with, could mean you’re opening yourself up to something you may not have been anointed to fight. Sometime, you just need to mind your business. It’ll be like me walking up to the altar to lay hands on a person the Holy Spirit hasn’t led me too. I go and get all in their business, making it mine. Now, I’m at home trying to figure out why this spirit of perversion is in my house. Why I can’t get a good night sleep. Why it seem like everything is on me. It’s because I’ve taken on something I wasn’t prepared, spiritually, to handle. This is why you have to know when it’s not your fight. Discern when you should intervene because it may save you from going through some hell that didn’t have your name on it. Know when it’s your fight.
Lakisha, the Author 
Amen!!!!!!