Daily Devotional – 12/5/18 “The right words matter!”

The backup camera on my car stopped working. We took it to the dealership for repair and because we have an extended warranty, it’s covered. Well, we get a call saying the warranty company denied the claim because the service agent told them the wires to the camera were cut. So, we pick the car up, after paying out-of-pocket, only to see the notes from the technician that clearly state, the wires were broken. Can you guess who is about to have every penny reimbursed? See, had the service agent used the correct word, there wouldn’t have been a problem but he didn’t and this is a prime example of how much the right words matter. It’s not just in this case but life in general. Using the right words matter because they can mean the difference between life or death and approved or denied. You don’t have to believe me but the wrong words can determine guilt or innocence, ask somebody on trial. You don’t have to believe me but the wrong words can cause chaos or calm, ask a person sitting in a doctor’s office waiting to hear test results or at the bedside of a loved one. You don’t have to believe me but say the wrong thing in an interview or an interrogation and see how it works out for you.

The right words matter because the wrong words in a book can cause a bad review. The wrong words on a business marquee can cause bad business. The wrong words in a contract can cause all kinds of trouble. This is why I’ll share it again, the right words matter and you have to be careful what comes out of your mouth. This is why you have to think before you speak, especially when you are emotional. You have to think before you respond, when you are angry. You have to think before you post because the wrong words, in the wrong place can cause unnecessary havoc. Think before you react because you can tear down, in a moment, what took years to build. Be careful of your words because they can potentially do harm. This is why the Bible shares in Matthew 12:37, “For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” The right words matter beloved and they have power, you simply have to use sound wisdom to choose the kind of power you want to speak.

Daily Devotional – 12/4/18 “I’ll praise, my way!”

On my way to work this morning, there was a discussion about the backlash #GabrielleUnion received when she posted a picture in a hospital gown, after the birth of her daughter. If you don’t know the story, quick recap. Gabrielle has been battling fertility issues so her and her husband used a surrogate. After the birth, they posted pictures of Gabrielle, in a gown and hospital bed. Here’s what rubbed me the wrong way … Folk were angry because to them, the picture alluded to Gabrielle giving birth, when she didn’t. Folk were really mad because they didn’t get why she had to have a gown on. Here’s the thing, she may never be able to physically give birth so if she wanted to enjoy that moment, with her only daughter, in a hospital gown and bed IT’S HER CHOICE! She received a blessing and that should have been enough but no, folk always nitpicking everything.

Look y’all, you’ve got to stop allowing folk to make you feel bad about your blessing(s). Stop giving people the power to bad mouth what God has granted when they don’t know the hell you’ve had to go through to get it. Truth is, most of the ones mad, aren’t really mad about your blessing but they’re upset because 1. It’s you, 2. You didn’t tell them and 3. It ain’t them. So, here’s what I’m not going to do … give you the time of day! However, here’s what I am going to do. I’m going to post about it, over and over. I’m going to snap pictures and share them, over and over. I’m going to talk about it, over and over. I’m going to shout about it, over and over. I’m going to cry about it (the good, ugly, soul-stirring cry), over and over. I’m going to praise God for it, over and over. Then repeat! And if it happens to bother you, baby bye! And I mean that for real goodbye with the deuces, the head nod and the smile because if you think I’m about to let you ruin my victory, tuh! If you think you’re about to discourage this praise after the many nights I’ve had to spend in pain, the days of crying, the moments of not knowing if I’d survive, the months of trying to keep from drowning, the weeks of depression, the silent nights of suicidal thoughts, the sickness and diseases, the addictions and the anger, the abuse and the hurt and all the losses I’ve had to take; YOU MUST NOT KNOW ME! (Imagine the clap in between each word) And get this, you can call me what you want, I don’t even care because I fought for this favor, I battled for this blessing, I fasted for this type of faith, I struggled for this seed and I endured for this moment and if you think I’m about to let you take the joy out of it, think again. Oh, if you have to take it up with anybody, call God because He did it, not me!

Daily Devotional – 12/3/18 “Would you still?”

What would you do if there was no crowd, no camera phones or video? Would you still preach, speak, give and serve the same? What would you do if nobody knew your name or never supported your gift? Would you still use it? What would you do if nobody ever read your book? Would you still write? What if nobody knew of your doing? Would you still do? I’m only asking because we live in a society where mostly everything is broadcasted and I am wondering if what you’re doing would still be done if nobody else was watching. Yes, we know God is watching but right now, I’m talking about people because reality is, we sometimes seek to please them and not Him. However, if nobody saw you feeding the homeless, would you still do it? If nobody recorded you helping somebody up, would you still do it? Would your giving, your talking, your living and your actions be the same if nobody knew it was you? If you never got the accolades and recognition, would you still? If there was no pastor’s love day, would you still serve the same? What I am sharing is, you don’t need an audience all the time. You don’t have to tell folk when you’re praying, just pray. You don’t have to post every time you sow a seed, just sow. You don’t have to video every act of goodwill, just do it. Every sermon doesn’t have to be recorded, just preach. Just give, just serve and just help because even if you never get paid what you’re worth, get back what you’re due or receive the recognition of man; God has an award ceremony already planned in your honor and it’ll happen when He’s ready.

This is why Bible shares in Matthew 6:1-6, “Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is in heaven. “So when you give to the poor, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, so that they may be honored by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. “But when you give to the poor, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving will be in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you. “When you pray, you are not to be like the hypocrites; for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on the street corners so that they may be seen by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. “But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, close your door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.”

Chased … She can’t outrun her secret

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Excerpt:

“Magnolia, aren’t you tired of being in this sunken place? Are you not tired of the voices that keep you up at night? Are you not exhausted from being chased?”

“YES!” I yell wiping tears from my face. “Yes Dr. Mitchell I am tired but I didn’t ask for this. These demons have been attached to my bloodline since before I was born. I DIDN’T ASK FOR THIS!”

“I know you didn’t but don’t you want to break the cycle and destroy the generational curses?”

“How, huh? How am I supposed to break what I didn’t create? This mess started long before I was born and it has carried over from generation to generation.”

“But you have the ability to stop the cycle, if you want too.” She coolly says.

“What do you mean, if I want too? I’ve been trying and I don’t know what else to do Dr. Mitchell. I keep thinking about the dirty secrets of my past, trying to forgive myself and even forget but my life seems to be spiraling.” I pause and look at her. “And the nightmares are the worse.”

“Magnolia, you do realize your nightmares are coming from the thoughts in your mind, right?”

“Then tell me how to turn them off.”

“You have to forgive yourself. If not for you then do it for your daughter because we both know if you don’t stop, Kai will be sitting where you are, having this same conversation, in ten years.”

“No!” I shout sitting up. “She cannot go through this. She can’t.”

“Then what are you going to do to break this curse of addiction?”

“I am not an addict! I’m scared, there’s a difference.”

“Is there?” She asks. “Look, whether you want to believe me or not, you are definitely an addict. The only difference between you and your mother; her addiction was heroin, yours is fear and until you claim it and call it out, you’ll continually stay right here.”

“I’m trying.” I whisper.

“This isn’t trying dear; this is called positioning your mask. Truth is, you haven’t tried to break the cycle but you have gotten great at creating barriers.”

“Barriers were the thing I needed to survive.” I state, getting angry.

“And how has that worked for you so far? Hiding from your past will not stop what has tainted your bloodline. You have to face your fears head on or they’ll keep chasing you. Look Magnolia, you stand up before a congregation of people, Sunday after Sunday pretending to be this free woman but once the lights are off in the sanctuary, you go right back to your prison.” Dr. Mitchell says.

“That’s not true.”

“Then why are you here?”

I don’t say anything.

“Magnolia, I don’t care how well you can preach and teach the gospel; you will never be able to free someone else when you’re still in bondage. On the contrary, you’ll only draw people who can relate to your demons but at the end of the day, all of you will still be in captivity. Oh, but you preach well and the people will come back because you tickle what’s in them. However, serving God isn’t about babying the sheep, it’s about saving them.”

“Then why would God give me this anointing? Why would He call me to preach?”

“Because He designed the plans for your life, long before you were ever created.” Dr. Mitchell says. “God tells us that He knew us before we were formed in our mother’s belly. This lets me know He knew what you’d endure and the only reason you haven’t lost your mind is because He made you strong enough to overcome everything that tried to kill you.”

“Yea, well I don’t feel strong.”

“I get it and I know this is hard for you but–”

“You know?” I laugh, cutting her off. “No Dr. Mitchell, I don’t think you know how it feels to find your mother dead the day before your sixteenth birthday. I don’t think you know how it feels to be a child and hear people calling her an addict when I never saw the signs. I don’t think you know how it feels to wake up and be a motherless child or know the heaviness fear gives when I think of leaving my daughter the same way my mother left me. YOU DON’T KNOW!”

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Happy Reading

Lakisha

Daily Devotional – 11/27/18 “My seeds need me!”

I’m proud of me! I am the bomb diggity! I got it going on! Girl, you rock! Yep, I am talking to myself today because sometimes you have to appreciate and encourage your own, doggone self. I told you yesterday that not everybody is praying you win but let me add this in, for free; not everybody who shows up is there to support, not everybody clapping, cares and not everybody cheering is glad. Sure, I could have picked another subject instead of dwelling on those who don’t but God gave me these words to encourage me, you just happen to be reading it. LOL! Seriously, you have to stop focusing on those who won’t and don’t. Those who won’t show up. Those who don’t return the support you give. Those who won’t say congratulations and especially those who don’t care if your feelings get hurt. It’s time you cut them loose, beloved, because there are 34 days before 2018 ends and we don’t have time to babysit and pacify folk. There are lives on the line, there is gifts to be used, testimonies to be told and time to make it happen. We don’t have energy, space or time to concentrate on who won’t because we got too much to do. There are business plans, books and sermons to write. There are businesses to open, ministries to grow and seeds to sow. There are gifts that have to be cultivated, now, in order for them to pay off later.

In other words (I am about to get gangsta again) … We ain’t got time to dwell on foolishness when we’ve got to prepare for spring time harvest. Baby, I don’t know about you but I need my seed to pay off and in order for that to happen, I have to tend to my own garden. This means, I cannot worry if you never stop by to say hello, my seeds need me. I can’t keep calling you to figure out why you won’t/don’t, my seeds need me. I can’t keep begging you to show up, to come, to do this/that; my seeds need me. And if I continue to put the focus on you, my seeds just might die. So, you can keep ignoring me, I’ll be over here watering my seeds. You can keep acting funny, I’ll be over here preparing to reap my harvest. You do you and I’ll be over here making room to receive the abundance of my harvest. But make sure you keep good notes on how you treated me, make sure you have details on all those times you didn’t show up and be very sure you state facts because they’ll be what you’ll have to refer back to when I pull a you on you! For my bible tells me in Matthew 7:12, “Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”