Daily Devotional – 11/25/14 “He who finds a wife … finds favor!”

Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Now men, not only do you find a wife but you obtain favor from God. Do you not understand how big that is? When you find your wife, you also receive unmerited (that’s undeserved) favor from God and all you did was find the one person God made for you. Yea, I know you think you’re doing something because you’ve been shacking with her for 10 years but don’t you want your favor? I know you think if it ain’t broke why fix it but look again, it’s actually broken and needs fixing. Oh, you’re listening to the folk who say she’ll change once she gets the ring and the paper? Then she isn’t your wife because if you’re already living together then you’re already doing married folk things and you should be committed to each other.

    How do you find you wife?

  • 1. Release the demons of your past. You are not your absentee, alcoholic, drug addicted, or abusive father or mother (if that applies). You are not what society has deemed you to be. You can be exactly who God has destined you to be, if only you believe in yourself. Your past does not matter so stop allowing society to make you think it does. God made you in His image and Ephesians 4:31 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”
  • 2. You have to be ready to be a husband. 1 Timothy 5:8 says, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” The worst thing you can do is take on the responsibility of a husband without being ready.
  • 3. Look for her. But you must have your heart in God in order for Him to lead you to your wife because when you go looking through your natural eyes, the enemy will have lust looking like love and then you’ll be tied to someone who will cause you hell the rest of your natural life. And please don’t go get someone else wife, she isn’t yours! Proverbs 18:22.
  • 4. Cherish her, don’t hurt her. Colossians 3:19 says, “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” No one has a right to put their hands on their spouse whether male or female. If you need help, get it!

This is for both men and women – STOP! Stop giving up every time things get hard. Stop allowing folk into your household, into your marriage and into your relationship. Stop telling all your business to your family and friends. You forgive, they don’t. Stop arguing and fighting! Learn how to hash out stuff like grown folk because when you don’t, you raise children who argue and fight. Above all things, keep God as the head. So many times in marriages we leave God out of it and then we expect Him to fix it when it’s bad but keep God as the head and allow Him to be the guide and He will be. It’s not going to be always easy; nothing is but hold on for he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord!

Daily Devotional – 11/24/14 “He who finds a wife …”

Now, this isn’t a women’s bashing devotional but my role is to teach and encourage and that’s what I shall do. I don’t know why God is leading me this way today but the bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Please don’t get mad at me, I’m simply the messenger but the only reasons you haven’t found a husband yet is because you’re not wife material, you’re not able to be found, you’re angry and unapproachable and/or your standards are too high. Let me break this down …

  • 1. The verse above says, “Whoso finds a wife,” which means you are supposed to be already groomed to be a wife. You’re supposed to know how to take care of your man, your house and then children. Oh but now days, you find it cute to not know how to cook and clean and you wonder why you can’t find a husband. Genesis 2:18 says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
  • 2. A man can’t find you if you can’t be found. I am not saying you should put yourself on blast for the world to see but every now and then, get out and mingle with friends, stop by the break room at work, go to bible study or Sunday school and worship service because you might just be missing your husband. Refer back to Proverbs 18:22.
  • 3. Stop being angry ALL the time. Stop nagging! Stop belittling every man you see. He is not your ex who did you wrong so stop treating him as such. What makes you think a man wants to come home after working all day (whether in the world or church) to a home with a nagging woman. Proverbs 19:13 says, “…and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.”
  • 4. Stop setting high standards for a man that are higher than the ones for yourself. You want him to work but you don’t. You want him to bring home the bacon but you can’t cook it. You want a house but won’t clean it. You want him to be God fearing yet you don’t want to go to church. Proverbs 12:4 says, “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones.”

This won’t be for everybody but it’s for somebody who has been praying for a helpmate. Someone is praying for the state of their marriage, it may be for you. Please understand; I am not blaming the issues of your relationship or the lack of one on you, I am simply stating this from a woman’s point, today. In order for us, as women, to be a helpmate to a man we have to first help ourselves. This is why we have to be prepared to be wives because marriage is hard enough as is, the last thing you need when fighting the world and the enemy is to be fighting at home. And please, please; do this for me … stop waiting for Boaz, he’s dead; wait on your husband that God has already designed for you! But you have to be ready to be a wife! For he who finds a wife finds a good thing!

Whatever you ask in prayer …

I haven’t posted in a while but I am still here and I am still writing! I am currently working on a new series about That Damn Cam from A Secret Worth Keeping Series and she is a mess! I am working on getting A Secret Worth Keeping 2 out more and I am still blogging. Oh, and I recently starting writing for an online magazine called So Fyh Magazine Online & International Publication. (Click on the name to view the link.)  I am also a part of a newly formed ministry called #GWBG (Girls Will Be Girls) and it is on the move. It’s a ministry dedicated to empowering and exhorting young ladies and women. You should check us out. (click on the link).

Y’all I am so excited about the things God is doing in my life, the journey He has me on, the doors He has opened for me and the work He is allowing me to do. I don’t know if you all follow me on social media or my other blog but I recently accepted my calling into ministry and since then things have been happening in my life (for the greater) and I cannot thank God enough.

My prayer this holiday season is that my ministry is more abundantly blessed and that souls are saved through my speaking, through my presence, my words, my books and even through my blogs. I pray that the sales of my books, both fiction and devotionals skyrocket so that people know me in order to get to know the God in me! And then I pray that I finish the first part of my new series in the coming weeks and then finish the second part in the coming months. I am speaking this thang y’all. I pray that GWBG will become so dynamic that it will blow even our minds. I pray that So Fyh Magazine will be more than Danielle could have even imagined. I am even speaking new levels to Delphine Publications, from Tamika down to each author associated who are genuine to the brand! I am speaking an increase in every area from book sales to best sellers list. (Watch God work!) We don’t have to wait until 2015, He will manifest it starting today. Before long you will hear Delphine Publications on the TV and Radio, in the newspaper and magazines for greater things (Nationwide traveling, hosting, etc.).

If you don’t know me by now, please know I am a prayer warrior with faith that can move mountains! I am declaring on today that everything I am asking and believing will be done for you and me! You don’t have to take my word for it but take God at His … “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Mark 11:24”

Write on!!

Daily Devotional – 11/21/14 “We’ve got to get right!”

Don’t tell me my fault if you aren’t willing to tell me how to correct it and please don’t tell me my fault if you are still in yours. Don’t show me my wrong if you can’t show me how to correct it and please don’t show me mine if you are still doing yours. Don’t tell me I look hungry if you aren’t willing to feed me and don’t see me thirsty and don’t offer me a drink. Don’t tell me my house is dirty if you aren’t willing to help me clean and don’t sweep around my front door if you’ve yet to sweep around yours. Don’t pass me, if I am walking and you’re driving and wave if you aren’t willing to give me a ride and don’t offer me help if you aren’t genuine with your kindness. Don’t tell me how good God is if you aren’t willing to offer Him to me and don’t offer Him to me if you can’t tell me what He has done for you. 1 John 3:18 says, “Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.”

All I am saying is this … Show me! Show me you love me, show me how to be better, show me how to correct my ways, simply show me! Oh, but don’t try to correct me unless you’re right first. How can you tell me what I am doing wrong if you have never been trained in the area of work? In order for you to save me, if I am lost, you have to first be saved; don’t you? I don’t mean a part-time saved Saint but I mean one that is always saved. I didn’t say a perfect saved Saint because we all sin and fall short but a full-time saved Saint is one whose light of God is always shining for people to see. You can’t be a part-time Christian and expect full-time benefits, that’s like working part-time and expecting a full-time check; it doesn’t work like that. We have to work together on this Christian walk, it’s hard! I need some help along the way. I need someone I can lean and depend on for those days I need hope but don’t come with a holier than thou attitude. Sometimes I don’t need what “Thus said the Lord,” I simply need a hug. Sometimes I don’t need a hug, I need prayer but you need to be able to see and acknowledge that and you do that with being right spiritually.

Daily Devotional – 11/20/14 “Stop judging!”

I find it so irritating that human beings can be so judgmental of other human beings when we ALL make mistakes. I mean, I’ve looked around and I haven’t found one perfect person walking among us in the flesh yet we; (us, folk, people, man or woman, doesn’t matter what ethnicity box you check); got the audacity to be judge, jury and executioner over someone else life. Please understand; I am not speaking on Bill Cosby because until charges have been bought against him, it’s just people gossiping but I’m speaking on folk in general, those in the world and those in the church but more specifically in the church because Christians have it bad. You know we do! We hear a little bit of what people think and chile that settles it. Isn’t it sad that now days people go to church to hear about folk’s business rather than to pray for them? Yet that’s what we, as a body of Christian people, have become. I told you before, God isn’t pleased. We use social media to spread family business, church business, children business, the dog and cat’s business but not God’s business … I wonder why souls aren’t being saved.

We are quick to judge a person by their appearance, by their name, by the color of their skin, by their background, by their parent’s mistakes or by your past hurts and what gives you the right? Who are you to judge? Even a judge who has been appointed to hear a case has to be given all the facts first before he rules, yet here you are basing your judgment on … (I’ll wait.) Luke 6:37 says, “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;” but then Luke 6:38 picks up and says, (get this) “Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” HA! Don’t you see? Give respect and you get it back. Give love and you get it back. It’s not all about money. Give friendship, honor, caring, a shoulder to cry on, help to carry those things that have us burdened down and you get it all back with the same measure in which you gave it out. You don’t have a right to judge unless it’s your job! So stop it!