Many times we get let down by people we’ve placed into positions they couldn’t handle. And you saw the blinking lights over their head but you like them and they smell good. You noticed the warnings but they make you feel good. You even know their track record but you believed them when they said “I’ve changed.” Now, you’re pissed off because they really hadn’t changed. You’re mad because they didn’t keep their promises. You’re angry because they didn’t hold up their end of the vows. You’re mad at the world because the person who said they’d be there still hasn’t shown up. But whose fault is it really? Go on and say it, I won’t even type it. However, let’s take ownership of our mess. See, if I put my hand in the fire, I can’t be mad when it burns me. I can’t pet a venomous snake and then get irate when it bites me. I can’t be furious at you for not showing up, this time, when you never showed up last time. Whose fault is it really?
OK, you can make up excuses if you want, you know the truth. You knew good and well they were hellish, the last pastor warned you. You knew doggone well he wasn’t daddy material, his other 3 baby mommas told you. You knew she wasn’t first lady material when she’d been with all your friends. And you know your momma told you to leave him/her alone because they weren’t any good. Oh but nooo, you fell for it, buying what they were selling because you like the taste but now your heart is broken. Well baby, whose fault is it? In the words of my friend, Minister Lashundra Richmond; calm down and breathe because the same shock that almost killed you, can be the same shock that revives you. However, it depends on if you’re willing to live. Either you allow the shock to prematurely put you in the grave or it’ll be the jolt you need to get up and change your heart. Because changing your heart changes your life. BUT the choice is yours and it starts by realizing who’s at fault.
“Rise up; this matter is in your hands. We will support you, so take courage and do it.” – Ezra 10:4
Lakisha, the Author 