Are you okay with the way things were when you left the house this morning? Are you good with the way the conversation ended with your loved one? Are you fine with the way you left things with your pastor? Are you cool with the relationship with some family members/friends? Was the last conversation you had satisfactory with you? I’m only asking these questions because the way you leave things could possibly be the way you leave things. Are you good with it? See, you aren’t promised tomorrow and although you think you may have the time to get it right; you may just find you don’t. This is why I am asking you … are you alright with the way things were left? If you’re not, you need to fix it. Ephesians 4:26 says this, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” You should never go to bed angry with anyone because there’s a chance you or they may not wake up. Would you want to take that chance? Yes, I know you’ve done it; a lot and nothing has ever happened but think about the one time it does. Don’t you realize you can’t apologize to a dead person and they forgive you? Don’t you understand that once the blood in your body is cold, there is no going back?
This is why I am asking you the question, again … Are you good with the way things are? It doesn’t matter that folk have hurt you, forgive them. Not for them but for you. It shouldn’t matter that you haven’t spoken in years; send a letter, Facebook message, smoke signal or whatever and end the feud. The last thing you want is to be standing over the casket of a family member or friend crying, “I wish I had told you,” it won’t matter then. Yes, I get it; someone has done you grievously wrong and there is no way you can forgive them but you have too. Forgiveness releases you from the prison you’ve placed yourself in. I know because I’ve been there. For as long as I can remember I had a strong distaste for the man who laid down with my mom and conceived my sister and me. I couldn’t understand how he, living in the same city, could act like we didn’t exist although we have his last name. But then God happened and He told me it wasn’t my battle to fight so I forgave him. I sent him a message through Facebook and I let him know that I forgave him. It wasn’t for him because there is still no relationship but it was for me. I had to let it go because whether I wanted to admit it or not, it had me hostage and stagnant in a place I no longer wanted to be. In a sense, he controlled me and my emotions. Yet forgiving him released me. And whomever you are, you’ve got to forgive. You’ve got to fix it. You got to let it go. Not for them but for you. Aren’t you tired of being imprisoned? Are you tired of being locked up, spiritually? The bible says in Matthew 6:15, “But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Don’t lose any more time because you may not have any more to waste.
Lakisha, the Author 