Dear Sis,
I apologize for being the bearer of this gut wrenching news but ….
You cannot be mad at ALL men simply because you’ve made the mistake of choosing ALL the wrong ones. Well, you can but why should all men men pay for the consequences of your mistake?
Please hear me with your heart. God isn’t mad at you. You’re angry at yourself which is manifesting in your belief that all men are the same or will treat you the same.
They are not and they will not.
Here’s the part that may hurt, even more … you’ll never be able to see or accept this until you heal. Sis, you’ve got to heal from the PTSD that comes with the trauma you’ve experienced. You’ve got to heal from the brokenness. You’ve got to heal from the abandonment. You’ve got to heal from the unkept promises. You’ve got to heal from the hurt. You’ve got to heal from the what the last one wouldn’t do.
Why? So that you can see what the REAL ONE WILL DO!
Sis, take some time to heal! No, I mean for real. Don’t get into another relationship. Don’t attach yourself to a situationship. Don’t link up for Netflix and Chilling. Shoot, don’t even accept a drink date right now. HEAL YOU! Before you give yourself to anybody else, other than God.
– Put God first – If God isn’t first, how can He approve them?
– Take yourself out – If you can’t spend time with self, you definitely can’t spend time with somebody else.
– Boost your own confidence – If you don’t believe in you, how can you convince somebody else to?
– Love you – If you don’t know how to love you, how will you know when someone else does?
– Trust God and yourself – If you don’t, you’ll never fully trust anybody else
Not all men are bad and the one meant for you, will find you when you stop sabotaging you. Beloved, it’s time for you to experience real love and your soft girl era.
Sincerely,
A sister who wants you to be happy.
Lakisha, the Author 