Did you know that when you are angry, you tend to mishear the right things said? Did you know that when you are emotional, you can make bad decisions? Being angry at not having a car can make you sign a bad deal, leaving you with a car note you know you cannot afford. Being emotional, especially after a death, can make do things you probably wouldn’t have had you waited. Think about it. When you’re angry or emotional, you get permanent tattoos that cannot be removed, you cling to a person who means you no good, you spend unnecessary money and you make drastic decisions that cannot be undone. This is why you have to get out of your feelings beforehand. If not, you may just miss what God is trying to get you to hear. AND when you’re emotional or angry, you will find yourself taking the advice of people who don’t have your best interest at heart and discounting the ones that do. This is why you cannot have serious conversations over text or email because you may tend to misread the tone of the other person.
When you are emotional or angry, you tend to make a small situation big. You argue with your baby daddy and bust the windows out his car. You misread a text and now you won’t answer the phone. You’re emotional, listening to sad music and replaying the hurt of your past and now the enemy is whispering suicide in your ear. You’re upset and now everybody is against you. Take a breath, beloved and calm down. Now, look again. Read it again. Listen again. When we are angry, we think those who hurt us did it intentionally. For some, they did but others, maybe not but it isn’t until you’ve calmed down and played it over in your head that you realize it. After you’ve said or done some things you regret. The bible says in Psalm 4:4, “Be angry, and do not sin; ponder in your own hearts on your beds, and be silent. Selah.” I know you want to respond but wait. You want to lash out, don’t. You want to make them feel as hurt as you, you can’t. Don’t react out of anger yet sit in the stillness of God and He’ll give you the right way to go and words to say. Proverbs 15:1, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Lakisha, the Author 