Don’t you dare go back!

I’m a little late, but I thought I’d share this again. DON’T YOU DARE GO BACK!

Here it is, Valentine’s Eve. The stores are filled with baskets, teddy bears, candy-shaped hearts, balloons, chocolates, and cards of love. Flower shops and jewelry stores are overflowing. Restaurants have double stocked for the crowds. Yet, the sad reality is, some of you haven’t felt loved in a long time. It’s not that you haven’t tried, but you find yourself on the receiving end of hurt. You’ve fasted and prayed, yet still feeling fatigued and passed over. You’ve tried the relationship thing, sometimes giving the same person chance after chance and in return, nothing.

Right now, you’re probably looking at a text or inbox from somebody in your past and you’re contemplating answering because you’re longing for love. Sis, before you make a rash decision to accept the gift, respond to the “Happy Valentine’s Day. You know I’ve never stopped loving you,” or the “hey big head,” text or reopen the door to your past; stop and think. Before you get under the influence of sex, drugs, alcohol, peer pressure, lust, and/or plain stupidity and do something you might regret; stop and think.

How did they handle you, the last time? If it left you with unhappy tears, anger, depression, and acting out. If you had to detox, repair, and start over. If you had to pray for God to sever the tie … don’t you dare go back.

You owe YOU more than that.

Oh yeah, Happy Almost Valentine’s Day ♥️


I’d initially shared this on my #DearSis blog, but I believe someone else needs this too. Maybe it’s you, the person who’s struggling to survive this journey called life. Maybe it’s you, the person who found it hard to get out of bed, just this morning. Maybe it’s you, the mother who’s praying for a child to live. Maybe it’s you, the father who’s fighting mental illness/depression and afraid to say it.

Maybe it’s you, pastor, who’s on the verge of walking away from the calling that’s been attached to you since birth. Maybe it’s you, educated person, who’s can’t make sense of what’s happening in your life. Maybe it’s you …


Breathe because somebody needs you.
Breathe because you deserve to live.
Breathe because you will survive this.
Breathe because it won’t always be like this.

Sure, it’s easy for me to say when I’m not walking in your shoes, but if I can be honest with you. There were times I didn’t think life would ever get easier. I thought I’d be suffering, broken, and barely making it all the days of my life.

Then one day, I took a breath and allowed my vision to clear. It was then I realized, my suffering was due to me. So, I took another breath and decided to live a better version of my life.

It changed my life.

Today, breathe. Whatever you’re facing, breathe through it because where there is breath, there’s life and where life is, there’s hope.

“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. We are hunted down but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies. Yes, we live under constant danger of death because we serve Jesus, so that the life of Jesus will be evident in our dying bodies. So we live in the face of death, but this has resulted in eternal life for you.” — 2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:8-12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

So we fasted

We’re in a season of fasting and praying. Some of you may have already begun or about too but fasting isn’t to be played with. Fasting is real and when used properly, it has the power to shift your life. Therefore, fasting isn’t done to be with the crowd, for quick weight loss, to appear holy or for show. Fasting is a vow between you and your God. It’s abstaining from food and drinks, (not social media-that’s consecration) replacing them with Bible study, praying and worship. It’s not a time for gossiping, anger, bitterness, and negativity. Fasting is a spiritual and physical detox of body, mind, and spirit. Fasting is seeking God for something you can’t do on your own. You fast for spirituality, strength, instruction, guidance and clarity with prayer, pure intentions, a clean heart, and hands.

Fasting is when your prayers should be strong, increased, more reflective and thoughtful. This isn’t a time for quick, soft, begging prayers because when you fast, the enemy’s attacks become more intense due to a void. Where there’s emptiness, the enemy sees an invitation and the more you fast, the more it’ll feel like things are working against you. Attacks will come out of nowhere, arguments with family and friends will pop up, messy coworkers will try to get you to gossip, supervisor acting silly, children out of order and etc. Don’t fall for it. Also, if you happen to mess up while fasting, don’t let the guilt trick you into giving up. You aren’t cursed, you simply broke a vow you made. Ask for forgiveness, get back on track and keep going. And please, don’t ever think you losing something during your fast is because you didn’t fast correctly. This is a ploy by the enemy.

We don’t fast for physical things. We fast for power to destroy chains/yokes, to cast out demons, to do the will of God, to hear God, to heal, to save, to lead, to teach, to pray, etc. Bible says in Isaiah 58:6, “No, this is the kind of fasting I want: Free those who are wrongly imprisoned; lighten the burden of those who work for you. Let the oppressed go free and remove the chains that bind people.”

We don’t fast to play. We fast to slay every stronghold.

We don’t fast for fun. We fast for our future.

We don’t fast for weight loss. We fast to lose the weight of every unhealthy attachment.

We don’t fast for show. We fast for spiritual wisdom.

We don’t fast for rewards. We fast for reconciliation with God.

We don’t fast for nothing. We fast for everything God said we can have.

If you’re going to fast, fast properly and get exactly what you need from God.

This New Year … HUSH

Beloved, I’m just going to come right out and say this (well, type it but you get my point) …

Consistently speaking against the blessings of others hinders yours.

You don’t have to believe me, but BIBLE (I put it in caps for ya) says  in Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Are, verb, 3rd person present tense is used to indicate something due to happen. You can’t expect God to bless you with the very thing you’re speaking against. Well, technically you can but it won’t work. Why not? Because the negative you’re speaking for someone else is due to happen to you. See, you can’t expect your business to flourish, by the hand of God, when all you ever do is speak harmfully against the blessings of everyone else.

Proverbs 13:2, “A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence.” Transgressors Biblically means to act or deal treacherously, faithlessly, deceitfully, or offend.

If you notice, I like to break down words because they give deeper meaning to the message, I’m trying to convey. Sister/Brother, all I’m sharing is this, HUSH! It’s a little harsh, right? It should be because some of you should be praying, “God, if you must hush me to stop me from messing up the blessings of you, do it.” Truth is that a lot of you should have hushed a long time ago. Maybe then you’d come out of agreement with the negative, bitter, spiteful, jealous, and manipulative spirits you’ve been playing house with. It’s the only way to truly pray, see and receive the blessings of God meant for you. Sure, you can’t understand why everybody else seems to be prospering when you aren’t. But how do you know they are? You only see what they want you to see and you’ve allowed that to change the posture of your heart.

God has plans for all of His children, including you. Although most times it’s us that messes up and/or delays them, God’s plans are still God’s plans FOR YOU. Don’t block or delay them any longer by what you allow to come out of your heart and mouth.

This New Year … HUSH and mind your business, blessings, benefits, bank accounts, beliefs, belongings, body, and baby hair. (I threw that in for my sisters.)

Dear God,

Forgive me. Forgive me for the negativity I’ve allowed to fester within my heart. Forgive me for speaking on the blessings of others. Forgive me for blocking access to the power of you in my life. Forgive me for not forgiving, holding grudges and being inwardly jealous of others although I may not have publicly said it. Father forgive me because I now know I need to come out of agreement with everything that hinders me from getting to you. Father, in this new year, I will do better to receive better and to be better. I may have messed up times before, but I’m ready now to get everything that’s mine and if that means dealing with me, so be it. God, if you have to hush me to help me, I’m willing. From this point on, let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.

This New Year, May…

As we prepare to go into this New Year, allow me to speak over your life by the power of God who abides in me. I’m using the word may expressing hope that what you ask will come to pass. Ending with Amen signifying so be it!

Jesus says in Mark 11:24-25, “I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.” — Mark‬ ‭11:24-25‬ ‭NLT‬‬

May you pray, believe, and receive all God has for you. Amen.

May you forgive all those you’ve been holding a grudge against, even yourself, in the name of Jesus. Amen.

May God do what you need in His time! Amen

May you leave everything that doesn’t have the potential to grow in 2021. Amen

May you have peace. Amen

May you find the joy that was dimmed when you buried a parent, sibling, child, and/or friend. Amen

May you get back everything that was lost and/or stolen. Amen

May you find the hope to try again after the failed business or relationship. Amen.

May your family be blessed. Amen

May you be released from the bondage of your abuser. Amen

May your cancer, lupus, and multiple sclerosis go into remission. Amen

May you get relief for your sinus trouble, migraines, arthritis, high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, depression, and any other disease. Amen

May the addiction you’ve been hiding be revealed and healed. Amen

May a match be found for your kidney, liver, lung, or bone marrow transplant. Amen

May your womb be open to bring forth the child you’ve been praying for. Amen

May your finances increase in such a way you lack for nothing or live paycheck to paycheck again. Amen

May your tuition be covered in full. Amen

May you get the job you’ve been preparing for. Amen

May you lose weight. Amen

May you find a therapist or take the anxiety meds. Amen

May you meet the man or woman for you. Amen

May your church membership be increased. Amen

May you baptize more this new year than any year before. Amen

May the anointing upon your life take you places you’ve only dreamed of. Amen

May your business thrive. Amen

May your books reach the bestseller list, you get over a million pages read in KU and bypass every goal set. Amen

May you walk in your purpose. Amen

May you be connected to a person heavily drenched with the Holy Spirit that it runs over to you. Amen

May your marriage be healed. Amen

May your child come home restored and healed. Amen

May you connect and become faithful to a place of worship. Amen

May you tithe and trust God with your finances. Amen

May you believe more in yourself and face your fears. Amen

May you stop sabotaging the plans God has for your life. Amen

May you trust God with you. Amen

Here’s to the best of 2022 for each of you who believe.

Lakisha 💚