If your relationship is open to allow anyone to comment on it, make suggestions, give you advice and you take it; then it’s an open relationship and you can’t get mad when others walk in it. A relationship is two people and it takes those two people to make it work. If you need to validate it on social media, there’s already a problem. If you have to vent to the world about it, it’s already in trouble. Please understand, you can’t take advice from a single person on how to keep your husband or wife happy, how would they know? If you have someone who has never been married trying to give you advice on how to stay married, run! That’s like me trying to tell the mechanic how to fix my car when I’ve never been greasy from going under the hood a day in my life. This is why you have to be careful who you listen too. Yes, I know they are in the church but that doesn’t mean they have all the answers. Oh, and if you think running your mouth to a beauty or barber shop full of folk about the good thing you got at home, think again.
Look, you have folk waiting to destroy your relationship simply because they don’t like you. You even have evil spirited folk and it’s what they do, daily. They can care less about the wife or husband at home; they are out to get what they can get while wiping the ‘happy’ smile from your face. But check this, the main issue you’re having is running your mouth. Folk only know what you tell them. **Side note, this is in no way referring to domestic abuse. If you are the victim of abuse of any kind; seek help immediately. ** Stop running to your momma’s house every time the two of you fight or have a disagreement, you forgive and they don’t. Stop calling folk on the phone every time something isn’t right; you forget and they don’t. You’ll have folk looking all upside your wife or husband’s head because of some stuff you told them when you should have kept quiet. Marriage and/or relationships are very hard but you can make them harder by adding your mess to it. Your marriage isn’t like your grandparents. Your relationship isn’t like your brother’s. Stop comparing them. This is the same when it comes to the relationship you have with your church. Stop bad mouthing it every time you don’t get your way. Learn how to keep home business at home and deal with it there.
“If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” 1 Timothy 3:4