There are people around you who are waiting on you to fail, family members who don’t believe you will amount to anything and people who come to cheer you on, but then leave speak negatively about you. Here’s what you do … stop trying to explain! All you have to do is, continually walk and work, in the purpose God has set before you. Stop trying to demonstrate signs that you’ve been called. Stop trying to provide evidence of your purpose. Stop trying to get them to visualize your vision. You don’t have to make the statuses of “I’m going to make it with or without you,” show them. You don’t have to make the subliminal post, show them. You don’t have to buy the shirt, show them. Baby, if I sat around waiting on folk to “buy in” to my purpose, I’d be somewhere, raggedy and tore up with a dried up harvest and no plan. If I waited on folk, to support my ministry, I’d probably never preach in “their” pulpits. If I had to count on folk, I do know, to buy books, I’d never get and be appreciative of all those I didn’t know.
What I’m saying is, stop putting time in the wrong people and things. When you focus on the purpose, you’ll see God’s plan but when you focus on people, you’ll miss God’s purpose. Child, if I focused on people who statistically said, because I was raised in the projects of North Memphis; I should be a teenage mother with multiple baby daddies, high school dropout, living in the same area on government assistance and possibly drugs; I would’ve doubted God’s plans for my life. Folk said, I couldn’t possibly be called to preach when I write books with sex/cussing, tattoos, high heels, shaved head and don’t conform to the standards of man AND I almost allowed this negative thinking to stunt my growth; BUT I know what I heard when GOD called me and not man. When I stopped living for the world and instead living, in the word, my life changed. When I stopped trying to please folk, my life became pleasing. When I stopped trying to make folk believe in me, folk began believing in me. Why? Because I no longer tell them ANYTHING, but I show them! How? By the fruit that I produce. Focus on the purpose, not the people!
Lakisha, the Author 
When its your own husband, how do I not focus on the people but instead the purpose.
Although this is hard … You still have to push pass him, as the person. Not necessarily meaning, leaving but instead, focusing on your goal. Here’s the thing, it hurts like you wouldn’t believe to have the person you’re committed to, not believe and/or support. Sometimes, that’s out of fear of not wanting to see you hurt/disappointed and sometimes, it can stem from their inward fear being projected onto you.
You still have to push, focusing on your God given purpose. When you do this though, you have to be ready when God reveals those who are for you and who aren’t. Including and not limited to, spouses. However, know that when you’re walking in your purpose, all things work accordingly to God’s plan and purpose for your life. This includes your marriage.