Why do I wait for you to pray for me when I can pray for myself? Why do I wait for you to encourage me when I can encourage myself? Why do I have to feel guilty over my blessings when God has found enough favor in me to give them to me? Chile favor isn’t fair but it’s surely right! I may not be where I should be in this Christian walk but I not where I used to be. See, when I ask you to pray for me, you may just be praying for my downfall. When I ask you to pray for my healing, you may just be praying for me to get sicker. When I ask you to pray with me, you may just be praying against me, so I think I’d better be careful about whom I ask to pray for me. Just because you go to church every Sunday doesn’t mean your prayers are getting through especially when you’re standing at the altar with hate in your heart for folk, when the bible says in 1 John 3:15 “Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him.” So, how can you pray for me when you really should be praying for yourself?
Praying is communicating with God and if you never pray then how can he know your voice? The bible says in John 15:7, “If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.” See, when you have God in your heart, whatever you ask in prayer will be given, but you have to pray and seek God’s face and turn from your wicked ways, then God will hear from heaven (2 Chronicles 7:14). It doesn’t matter when you pray or even where you are but pray. How do you pray? It’s simple. Romans 8:26-27 says “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.” See, when you’re in the spirit, the right spirit, the Spirit will step in on your behalf. Have you ever been talking to the Lord and you seem to get caught up in it, the tears start rolling down your face and now your prayer has made you happy? This is the spirit interceding on your behalf. When you pray for the right reasons and with the right heart, all you have to do is open your mouth and let the spirit do the work. Now, Matthew 6:7 says “When you pray, don’t babble on and on as people of other religions do. They think their prayers are answered merely by repeating their words again and again.” Which means, you don’t have to keep asking God for the car you want, he heard you the first time, now give him time to answer. You don’t have to keep praying for your husband or wife to come, God got it, now wait for him to send them. You don’t have to keep bothering him with the same prayer because if you ask in faith, then you should speak as if it’s already done. Next, you have to pray humbly, from the heart and with your own words. Don’t try to pray like Deacon Surely or Sister Purely because then your prayer is not sincere. When you pray from you and for you, God hears. Psalm 34:17 says “The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.”
You have to pray for yourself sometime. Don’t get me wrong because there is nothing wrong with praying with others or even in a group because the word says in Matthew 18:19, “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.” But God also wants us to sometimes pray by ourselves. Why? Because we can sometimes get caught up in other folks prayers that we forget about our own and because, again, not everyone is praying on your behalf for good and also because God may just want you to keep your business to yourself. Matthew 6:6 says, “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” It’s not always about praying in church on Sunday morning that allows God to hear you because he can hear you, better, when you’re alone. God said if you pray in front of folks because you want to be seen then you’ve already received your reward (from folk here) but if you pray righteously, humbly and with a clean heart, then your rewards are waiting on you in heaven. See, God really doesn’t need your prayers in order to know what you want, because he knows what you need before you even open your mouth but he still says you have to pray right. Stop waiting around for the Pastor to visit you in the hospital to pray for healing, when God says ask and it shall be given. Stop waiting for your momma or daddy to pray for your breakthrough from drugs, when you have to be the one to turn it loose. Stop praying for God to remove your abusive husband/wife, when all you have to do is move and when you move, God’s protection surrounds you! Stop asking God for a better job, house or car when you never apply for one. You keep asking God to let you win the lottery but you never buy a ticket. Philippians 4:6 says “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.”
This, then, is how you should pray:
“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:9-15