You woke up this morning with a chip on your shoulder bigger than Texas and then you say, “I woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” But the real truth is, it’s not the side of the bed that is the problem but it’s you. See, you get up on the same side of the bed every day because it’s the side you always sleep on. Stop blaming the bed for the frown on your face and the attitude in your voice because it didn’t cause it.
You’re mad because your baby’s daddy is a deadbeat but wasn’t he trifling when you laid down with him? You had to know there was a chance you could make a baby when you weren’t using protection, right? If he was a horrible boyfriend, then chances are he will be a horrible father. If you couldn’t count on him to come and change a flat tire when you were stranded then you should know that the chances of getting those pampers he promised are slim to none. So why are you mad? You had to have seen all of the signs before you bought a baby in this world. Now you want to run to court to put him on child support when he has never worked in the eight years you all have been dating. You want him to support the child but you’ve been supporting him the whole time. Chile, stop it! You’ve got to take responsibilities for the choices that you’ve made. Stop hating him and wishing bad on his life because ultimately you are to blame and it’s only hindering your praise. He has probably gone on to make other babies and more problems so why are you still allowing him to ruin you? Let it go and learn from the mistakes that you made and move on. God has given you a blessing in the baby or babies whose face you look upon every day. Stop making their lives miserable by constantly talking about their no good daddy. Everybody around you knows because you keep saying it. Love them unconditionally and place your heart in God so that the next man than comes along goes through God to get it and then you’re know they are daddy and husband material.
You’re mad because your sister, brother, mom, dad or uncle wouldn’t let you borrow the money you asked for; when actually it is not borrowing because you probably don’t have it to give back so it’s giving. Have you ever called to ask them how they are instead of always begging? Maybe they are having a bad day or really don’t have it to give. But you always think they got it because of the way they dress or carry themselves, so now you leave pissed off and telling everybody. Don’t you know that your mouth is blocking a lot of the blessings that God has for you? You’re constantly talking about everybody when they don’t always give you what you want, but your attitude is different when your needs are being met. But aren’t you capable of working and providing for yourself? You’re mad because folk won’t take from their household to fill your needs or help you pay your bills when you should be doing it yourself. Why are you mad? Get up and change your circumstances. If you don’t have a car, get a bus route and a few dollars and go job hunting. There are plenty of places that are offering and willing to help but they won’t track you down to give it to you, get up! Stop with the woe is me attitude because you are not the only person with problems and it isn’t your family or friends responsibility to provide for you and your house full of children. Get up off your butt and do something!
You’re still mad at daddy because he wasn’t there for you growing up and you are now over 30. Get over it! Daddy is the one that has missed out on your life. What have you missed? Didn’t mom still provide for you, wipe your nose when you were sick, attend school functions when she could, raise you with morals and character? Daddy is the one that has to answer to God on being an absentee father so why are you trying to condemn him too? Let go of the anger and resentment that you have in your heart for him because it’s blocking your path to God. Your dad has moved on and has a new family and may even be a Christian in the church but God still has the final say in his life so why are you mad? Let it go! Having hate and malice in your heart is stopping your prayers and praise from reaching God and in this day and time, you need all the blessings you can get. Stop allowing man to rob you of what God has for you by fighting battles you can’t win. Just because you are angry and mad won’t change the past and it surely won’t change your daddy. Let it go baby and move on because God has blessings and work for you to do but he can’t reach you with all this other stuff built around you. Tear down the walls and stop treating every man who comes along like your daddy. Just because he left doesn’t mean every man will leave. You need to break the curse and start today!
Stop with all the foolishness! Stop being an angry female or male! If you didn’t get that job that you claimed, it wasn’t yours. If you’re spouse chooses to leave, he or she wasn’t yours. If you lose your house or car, it wasn’t yours. God won’t give you anything he won’t give you the means to keep. Stop looking at all things as blessings from God because you know that most of this mess you got yourself in and now you’re crying to God to get you out of it. If you asked him to get you out of debt and they repossessed your car or foreclosed on your house, why are you mad? If you asked him to bind your enemies and folk left, why are you mad? If you asked him to release the strongholds that have you bound and stressed and you got laid off, why are you mad? If you asked him for confirmation in a decision and then you receive an email, phone call or text, why are you doubting or skeptical? Didn’t you ask? Stop asking for stuff you’re not ready to handle and stop acting like God is punishing you because you’re having it hard right now. I can guarantee that everyone you know has been, is about to, or is coming out of a storm.
So, again, I ask why you are mad. If you still have a reason to be, then you need to open your bible to Proverbs 14:29 that says “People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness” or John 1:19 “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” You can also read my post entitled Dear J.O.H.N Letter.
Lakisha, the Author 