Life is designed for us to encounter trouble and with trouble comes mistakes & bad choices. The bibles states in Job 14: 1, “Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble.” But your life doesn’t have to be consumed by the mistakes and troubles of your past, so why do you keep looking back on them? If you constantly look back, how can you see to move forward? If you constantly compare your new husband/wife to the old one how can you see the good in him/her? If you constantly compare your new job to the old one you use to have, how will you enjoy it? If you constantly talk about things that happened in your childhood, how can you expect to enjoy your adulthood? 2 Corinthians 5:17 states, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”
Rejoice in the fact that you are still alive and that you have a life that is worth living. If you feel like it’s not worth living, then you aren’t doing something right. God’s mercies are new every morning. Lamentations 3:22-23 states, “It is of the LORD’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.” If, every morning, you have been given breath in your body to get up with new mercies, new blessings and a new start; why would you use that being bitter and mean? If God has chosen you to wake up with your mind right, an appetite & strength, why would you use it for bad? The saying, let go so you can grow, is true. If you are constantly holding on to rope that is tied to something, it will eventually stop you from moving. This is the same hold the past has on you because you choose to let it. You still mad at momma because of something she did when you were a teenager. Now, momma is dead & gone and you still can’t get over it. It is not hurting momma anymore, but it’s consuming you. Let it go! You still mad at your last boyfriend/girlfriend because he or she cheated on you and now every guy/girl you meet has to hear about or deal with your insecurities. But the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend has moved on, gotten married and is enjoying life. It’s consuming you, let it go! You’re bitter because the job promoted somebody to a position you thought was yours, now all you do is complain the entire time you there. But the person who got the job has moved on to 2 other positions since then and you still wondering why they keep overlooking you. Let it go!
Sometimes you have to give up stuff in order to be happy. You have to give up that gossiping friend in order to get real friends. You have to let go of the trifling boyfriend/girlfriend in order to get the husband/wife God has for you. You have to let go of that one child that keeps making the same mistakes in order to see the good in the other children. You have to let go of anything that is holding you down. You can’t float to the top if you got a weight around your ankle. If there are 2 boats and you’re sitting in the one that has a hole in it, there is no possible way for you to get into the other one until you let go & get out of the old one. But if you continue to sit in the boat that will eventually fill with water, you drown! Let go!
You have to decide to be happy. Stop wasting the time that you have on being bitter to the world. You are losing precious time that you can’t get back. Get out and enjoy life before you no longer have it to live!
Lakisha, the Author 