Grief is …

Grief is tricky
Grief is hard
Grief is sneaky
Grief is also a tactic the enemy will use.

Hear me … even those of you who are at the angry stage and don’t want to grasp what I’m about to share. (Come back later, it’ll still be here)

Do NOT let grief consume or confuse you! Don’t let grief stifle your life or cause you to sin. Don’t let grief open doors not meant for you.

Your loved ones aren’t visiting you. The Bible tells us, “To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.” Who you’re seeing is a familiar spirit the enemy is using to gain access to your life. When he does, he creates a stronghold. A stronghold is a wall/cave used to hide or mask your enemy. Yes, I know you want to see them, but they’re gone. Let them rest so that you can rest and live. As hard as this is, you are very much alive. Don’t allow your life to die with the death of your loved one.

This doesn’t mean you won’t grieve. Baby, I had a moment before typing this. Yet, don’t let grief consume you to the point, you forget how to live.

Also, don’t allow the emotional intoxication of grief to entangle or entrap you into something you wouldn’t agree to when you’re sober. You aren’t thinking clearly and neither will you make the best decisions. Wait! Wait until your thoughts are rational and you aren’t a mess.

Pay attention to your spirituality, as well. Ensure you’re connected to the right spiritual place, people, and leaders who can help you navigate this new normal. Not everybody speaking to you during this time has your best interest. False preachers and prophets are at the ready when you’re emotional, saying things to pull you in like … “Your loved one was praying for you.” “Your loved one covered you.” “You are alive because your deceased loved one protected you.” “Your loved one is watching over you.” LIES!! When the body is dead, it’s dead. There is no more work for them to do because our spirit is then placed into our new, eternal body, made by God.

The Bible says in Second Corinthians 5, “For we know that when this earthly tent we live in is taken down (that is, when we die and leave this earthly body), we will have a house in heaven, an eternal body made for us by God himself and not by human hands.”

What lives on is their memory and legacy. Sure, the prayers they prayed for you while alive can still manifest, but that’s because of the seeds they planted coming to pass. It’s not because they’re here. They aren’t.

I know this is a lot of information and it probably triggered something within you, but I come in peace. I want you healthy and sound, spiritually and physically. I want you to grieve properly. I want you to heal. I want you to live.

Grief is hard enough. I don’t want to lose you, too, because you’re angry with God for not giving you a warning or explanation for repossessing who belonged to Him, anyway. You have a right to grieve. Just don’t grieve as if there isn’t still hope.

I love you and I’m praying for you, and us to make it through this.

💚