Dear Sister,

What we ain’t about to do is continue pouring the gifts, God has given us, into fruitless relationships. We are not about to continually spread the untrue news that all men are bad. Hold on, some of the men may have been raggedy, but not all. Here’s the truth, and this may sting a little but I need you to get this … IT MAY BE YOU!

See, God has created you with strength that can stretch you pass your limits, favor that can withstand fights that should have defeated you and glory that shifts you from ordinary to extraordinary. You just have to know this about yourself. You are the bomb, damnit, yet you don’t trust your opinion of you.

Want to know why? I’ll tell you, even if you don’t. You haven’t taken the time to get to know you. You jump from relationship to relationship without grieving and healing from the one that ended. You lay in beds, creating soul ties with folk and you don’t break them. You continually diminish the power you possess in your head, heart and between your thighs.

Here’s what you do, HEAL YOU!

Have a funeral for everything you’ve lost, grieve it and heal. And while you’re on your healing journey:

• embrace YOU
• spend time with YOU
• love YOU
• get to know YOU
• believe in YOU

If not, you run the risk of raising little examples of broken you and that’s not fair to them.

My sister, it’s time you healed. You’re too old to be in the shape you’re in. You have children that shouldn’t have to keep watching momma arguing, fighting and crying over somebody God didnt create for you. You’re too beautiful to keep lowering your standards. And you’re too gifted to be treated like trash.

What we will do, from this point on, learn our worth and demand it!

Signed,
A sister who wants to see who whole! 💚

PS — The #SurvivingMe journal is available for you.