Daily Devotional – 9/21/12 “TBR! “

Now, if you don’t know what that means, that’s the children’s lingo that means to be real. See, I had to stop in today to be real with you, to vent in a way because I just don’t know what the hell is happening to the world. I know this is a Christian devotional and I probably shouldn’t have said hell but this is where most of us are going if we don’t start keeping it real. See, I’ve come to realize that this generation of children couldn’t survive without parents but I’ve also realized that we are the majority of the problem. Let me break this thang down so that it can be clear. We’ve allowed our children to become majority stockholder in a company they should have to work their way to the top in. Yea, we’ve allowed them to tell us what they want to eat, where they want to go, when they want to come home, how they want to dress, what they will and won’t do and all this crap when we should be knocking the crap out of them. The minister that recently preached our youth revival said it simple and correctly when he said we have dumb children with smart phones. Now, I don’t mean to offend anyone because I’ve got my faults too but now, right now, is the time for us to get this together. I’m trying to figure out what makes a child go to school every day and feel like they don’t have to do the work that has been assigned, don’t have to follow the teacher’s direction and can have a don’t care attitude. I mean, It’s mind boggling to me. I have a 15 year old who goes to one of the top schools in the city yet everyday she throws away the chance of a lifetime. I attended school on the Northside of Memphis, where folks who weren’t from that part of town, didn’t expect you to be nothing but baby I’m here to tell you that because of God, a strong mother/family, that school and being raised in that part of town; I am who I am today. It is because I watched my mom struggle to make sure we had what we needed and not what we wanted, it is because of the teachers who actually cared about us and they showed it, it is because of friendships that were made then and some that are still in effect today and it is because of where and how we were raised that we were able to become educators, corporate employees, great mothers/fathers, entrepreneurs and overall great folk. I am not ashamed to tell folks about my upbringing because it is my upbringing that keeps bringing me up!

Oh, but the kids these days have no sense of urgency, no regards to what should be a priority and will flaunt a don’t care attitude when the world will chew them up and spit them out the first chance it gets. We give them cell phones, name brand shoes/clothes, video games, nails, hair fixes and money to hang out when we hardly ever get the chance too. Am I blaming the parents, YES, because we are the problem and then we have the nerve to get mad when someone else tells them something? Child, you’d better wake up and realize that it takes more than you to raise a child. You got disciplined by the neighbors and you turned out more respectful because of it. I still say yes/no ma’am, yes/no sir to folks who are older than me and I don’t care if they are only 3 years older, why, because that’s respect. Now, the kids talk crazy and even look crazier when an uncle or aunt tell them to pull their pants up or their skirts down. We need to get back to reality! We don’t even discipline them anymore because we have a Now & Later attitude whereas a child does something now and we say we’ll get them later. What in the name of all things holy is that? The bible says in Proverbs 23:13, “Don’t fail to discipline your children. They won’t die if you spank them.” You didn’t die with all the whoopings you got, did you? And then you had to go and get the switch or belt for your own punishment. However, with the “new age” parents, we allow the child to set the rules of the game but when did the play change? I mean, if you were disrespectful with your mouth, you got hit in your mouth but now we tell them, “Say it one more time and I’m going to …!” What? What are you actually going to do later that you couldn’t have done now? Bay-bee, you’d better get it together. Kids, these days have it all wrong. Instead of your daughter being on the phone while you cook dinner, teach her how to make the cornbread. While your son is chilling on a Saturday, he should be cutting the grass while you are edging in order to learn how to take care of his house someday. If we don’t teach them, how will they know?” Teach a young man to be responsible and respectful so that he’ll know how to treat young ladies. Teach a young lady how to be responsible and respectful so that she’ll know how to treat young men. Teach them the value of a dollar so that they won’t be 18 and sign away their life the first time a credit card application comes in the mail. Teach them how to love themselves, first, so that they won’t fall for the first person whispering in their ear. Teach them how to pray so that they can call on God when times get hard. Teach them how to worship so that the Holy Spirit can abide in them and speak for them when they can’t. Teach them how to be responsible drinkers when they get 21 so they won’t end up dead or in jail before they turn 22. Teach them how to work hard for the things they want instead of stealing and robbing folks. Teach them that it’s ok to love themselves but not become self-centered and full of themselves. If you have a trade, teach it to them because even if they act like there aren’t interested now, they will be when they least expect it. If you start early building their foundation, they’ll always have it to build on. Will they sometimes stray, yes but they’ll have a starting point to go back too. This is why the bible says in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

We are living in a society where kids are maturing faster than they ever have so before the world turns them into another statistic, we have to ground them. My grandma always says you get them where they cut up at. Proverbs 29:15 says, “To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.” So, instead of going to the school to act a fool with the teacher, act one with the child that’s cutting up and I can bet they won’t want that embarrassment again. Tare their tail up when they are disrespectful to the adult in the house who is not their biological mom or dad instead of saying that you will. Another thing, stop discussing grown folk business in front of children who have no business being in the business! We’ve got to get back to teaching the right way instead of telling it to them. We’ve got to get back to paying attention instead of paying them to do the chores they are supposed to do. We’ve got to get back to praying for/with them instead of praying they make it to 18 to get out of your house. We got to get back to making them worthy of God’s blessings instead of making them go to church on Sunday where they text or sleep the entire time. We’ve got to being the parents that God has made us. The bible says in John 5:19, “Jesus gave them this answer, I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.” And women are supposed to adhere to what the bible says in Titus 2:3-4, “Likewise, older women are to show their reverence for God by their behavior. They are not to be gossips or addicted to alcohol, but to be examples of goodness. That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.” Don’t be quick to throw in the towel when your child makes mistakes because kids, young & old, will make mistakes because no one is perfect but God. Haven’t you realized by now that once you’re down and old, these same children you’re walking over will be responsible for you? Don’t be too quick to give up on them because they may just return the favor and then you’ll be sitting in a nursing home crying because no one will visit you. Start off with a strong foundation of Christ and His commandments and if they ever leave, they will have something to return to and to rebuild on. I know that times get hard and sometimes you feel like giving up, but someone cared for you when you needed it. You can’t be mad or sad when they are consumed by the streets if that’s the only choice you’ve given them. Stop giving up so easily on your child. Sometimes you have to take your hands off but that’s only when you have placed them in God’s hands.

Published by Pastor LaKisha

LaKisha Johnson is an author of thirty Christian Fiction novels, devotionals and journals. She writes from her heart, as she hopes the messages, on the pages, will relate to every reader.  Ask her and she’ll tell you, ”It’s not just writing, its ministry.” Over the course of her career, she’s won the 2018 Drunken Druid Book of the Year Award for her book, The Forgotten Wife, 2019 Top Shelf Christian Fiction Book of the Year for Dear God: Hear my Prayer, 2020 Distinguished Authors Guild Award for her book, I’m Not Crazy and was a 2020 TopShelf Women’s Fiction Finalist for her book, When the Vows Break. In addition to being a self-published author, she’s also a wife of 22 years, mother of 2, Asst. Pastor of Macedonia MB Church in Hollywood, MS; Sr. Business Analyst with FedEx, Devotional Blogger and more. She’s a college graduate with 2 Associate Degrees in IT and a Bachelor of Science in Bible.   LaKisha writes from the heart, and this is why she doesn’t take the credit for what God does. If you were to strip away everything, you’d see that Lakisha is simply a woman who boldly, unapologetically and gladly loves and works for God.

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