I mean, are you truly happy or are you walking around with a smile on your face to keep from crying? You ride in your car every day, smelling good, looking good, hair done or a nice cut and smiling because you want the world to think you got everything all figured out and all is well when actually you’re at home drinking tears for water. Baby God never told you to conform to this world. What he said was “but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will (Romans 12:2).” See, you want the world to think your marriage is going great so you put a show on for folks but you’re living in hell in your own house, behind closed doors. You want folks to think you got all you need and never stress over anything, when you’re one paycheck from being homeless because you’re living in a house you can’t afford. Child, you’d better let it go. If the man or woman you got at home isn’t contributing to your happiness, maybe some changes needs to be made. If the kids can’t do what you need them to do and you’re stressing about them, then maybe some changes need to be made. Stop acting like you don’t have any problems because you worried about what folks might say when the truth of the matter is, they are having just as many problems as you and they are doing all they can to hide it.
Ecclesiastes 3:12 says, “I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live.” What sense is it to have food and no appetite, a bed and sleep won’t come, a closet full of clothes with no desire to wear them! If God gives you new life and new mercies every morning, shouldn’t you enjoy them? Ecclesiastes 8:15 says, “So I commend the enjoyment of life, because nothing is better for a man under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany him in his work all the days of the life God has given him under the sun.” See, if you enjoy the blessings that God gives then you have joy and when you have joy, you have peace and with peace you have understanding and with understanding comes knowledge and knowledge leads to power. But if you’ve allowed someone or something in the world to steal your joy, then they steal your power. If you go into your job with hell in you every morning, it’s time for a change. If you go into your church home with hell in you every Sunday, it’s time for a change. If you go into your home with hell in you every day, it’s time for a change because if you continue to go into these places with hell, then you essentially come out worse than when you went it and that’s not good for anybody. When you come out with more hell in you, it makes you a road-rage driver, a hollering parent and an unwelcomed co-worker and who wants to be around any of you? Not me! Why should I have to put up with your mess, when I got problems of my own? The only way for you to get your happiness and joy back you have to take it!
If the mess you’re in isn’t pleasing to God, then you aren’t pleasing to him. If you know your child isn’t acting right in school which is causing you stress from the calls and emails you keep getting, change it. Take away all that cute, expensive stuff and get them back to the basic. The bible says in Proverbs 13:24, “Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.” If you keep telling them you’re going to discipline them and you never do, then they take you as a joke. You need to stand up and take the reins back. If the house you’re in is causing you more money than it’s worth, move! If the car you’re driving is costing you more than it’s worth, trade it. If the job you’re on is causing you more headaches than what they pay, change it. See, the common factor is all of this is YOU! You choose to be happy and you choose to let folks steal your happiness. Can’t anybody take what’s yours unless you give it to them or they are robbing you and I surely don’t think anybody with a gun will say, “Give me your smile!” When your smile is gone your joy is gone and when you joy is gone, God isn’t present because the bible says in Nehemiah 8:10, “The joy of the Lord is your strength.” See, when you have God you get the Holy Spirit as a bonus and I’ve told you before the Holy Spirit will have your back on them days when you feel your smile fading. On those days when your heart is so heavy and you can’t say a word, the Holy Spirit speaks on your behalf (that’s if your heart is right.) Galatians 5:22 says, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.” When you have the Holy Spirit, you can’t help but be happy but you have to have the Holy Spirit. Let me say it again for those that may miss it! If the Holy Spirit gives you all these things in your life, you can’t help but be happy but you must, first, have the Holy Spirit. I don’t just mean on Sunday morning, but I mean all the time because when you have the Holy Spirit in you, it’ll show in your walk, your talk, the way you carry your purse or bag, the way you dress and comb your hair and the way you feel about everything. When the Holy Spirit is present, the world won’t be allowed to do you any harm.
You have a right to be happy. Even in the midst of times when you may be temporarily without funds, be happy. When the car won’t act right and kids are acting like strangers in your house, be happy! When folk talk about, be happy! When they gossip about you, be happy! When you keep putting in job applications with no return call, be happy! When sickness attacks your body, be happy. In all things, count it all joy! Be happy because happiness leads to hope and hope leads to healing and with your healing comes helpfulness and when you’re helpful you get honor from God and with this honor comes hospitality and hospitality from God leads you to Heaven’s gates!