How is it that we can allow folk to stop us from getting what God has for us? I hear people saying all the time about how folk act at church and this is the reason they don’t go anymore. But if you stop worrying about how folk look at you, what they whisper about you and how they run their mouth, you wouldn’t have a problem. So what if they look like they are talking about you when you walk into church that means you are worth talking about. So what if they looking at you funny when you walk in that means you’re worth looking at. Just because folk got your name slipping from their lips it shouldn’t stop you from going into fellowship with God. It should make your relationship stronger because you are supposed to pray for those types of folk. Don’t believe me, read Matthew 5:44 which says “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” Don’t you know that when you pray for your enemies, it increases your blessings? Well, that’s what God has promised. Luke 6:35 says “Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked.”
If you are more concerned with how folk look at you rather than the ministry of God, then you are going to church for the wrong reason anyway. You say, “Church folk are so messy and they wonder why I haven’t been to church in a while,” but no matter what church you attend, there will be messy folk. So stop running from them because I can guarantee God won’t accept that excuse when you’re standing in front of him on judgment day. “Lord, I haven’t been to church because people always talking about me.” So what? Does the talking that folk do affect your day-to-day living, the amount of money you make, the clothes & shoes you wear, how you sleep and how you eat? Then why does it affect your relationship with God? It didn’t affect Jesus’ choice to be dragged from judgment halls, getting beaten all nights, pricked in the head with thorns, pierced in his side and nails dug into his hands & feet for our sins. Instead he prayed to his Father on their behalf. Even in the midst of his pain and agony, he prayed for his Father to forgive them. In Luke 23:34 he says “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” But instead of us praying for the forgiveness of those who “hate on us”, we run from our church and from God.
It’s like you needing a specific medicine that’ll save your life but every time you go to the store you feel like the people there are talking about you. Do you risk your life by not getting the medicine you need or do you walk into the store each and every month with your head held high in order to live? It’s the same way with God’s house each and every Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. When you allow folk to keep you out of worship with God, it hurts you. Oh, don’t get me wrong, it is also hurting them because whenever you sit in God’s house with your mind filled with hate, dislike and hurtful feelings for your brothers and sisters whom you are supposed to love; your prayers are hindered too. For John 4:24 says “God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth.”
You should know that if you are the topic of people’s conversation, then that makes you worth talking about. Grandma always told me that the more folk talk about you, the more you should bend your knees to pray. But, Bonnie Raitt sang “Let’s give them something to talk about!” Usually when folk talk about you they are jealous of the blessings and the favor you receive. You know that it’s a sin to boast and brag about yourself, so chile, let them brag about you! Continue to do the work that God has given you to do because eventually they will either want to worship the way you do in order to get like you or they’ll move on to talking about the next person. But if you feed into the insecurities of those gossiping Christians, it makes them talk more. It’s just like adding fuel to an already burning fire but if you leave a fire alone, it usually burns out. And just in case you didn’t know this let me be the first to tell you, if they are talking about you when you’re at church, they are talking about you when you’re not. So there is no reason for you to miss the teaching of God’s word and the praise that is being given to him by staying home. Because if they spent as much time minding their own business as they do yours, their praise would be more genuine anyway.
So, stop allowing folk to affect your relationship and walk with God because when it comes down to it, they can’t get you to Heaven because their ticket hasn’t been stamped anyway. Being focused on them takes your focus from God and it’ll make you to sink every time. That’s what happened to Peter when he wanted to walk on water. He began to walk towards Jesus but as soon as he looked out to see the high winds blowing, he begin to sink because it was then that he started to doubt (Matthew 14:28-31). But don’t you know that God will take care of your enemies? Psalm 110:1 says “Sit at my right hand until I make your enemies a footstool for your feet.” So instead of worrying about what folk are saying, get up, put on your Sunday best and walk into the church with your head held high ready to get your praise on and if the folk are there gossiping as usual, say to them “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only (Matthew 4:10)!