With so many things going on in the world, why are you fighting in your own house? Isn’t it bad enough that you’re judged every day when you step outside your house, beaten down by rude people, lied on by so-called friends and abused by family? Shouldn’t home be a place where you go to release the burdens that have whipped you all day long? Shouldn’t home be your safe haven when everyone else is fighting you? Shouldn’t you find comfort, peace, love, joy, kindness, arms to run too and caring words that soothe?
So many times, we allow our home to become a battleground. We leave work frustrated so we take it out on the spouse. We listen to the best friend’s pity party all the way home (instead of telling them to change their situation) that when you get home you don’t have any more in you to listen to the kids. You’re mad at your brother/sister for something that happened and instead of talking to them; you go home with an attitude so big that your home environment is now hostile. You have to deal with whatever it is when it happens because if it drags out too long and if you hold on to things too long, YOU become bitter. Ephesians 4:31 states “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Who wants to be around someone who is always complaining, griping, tearing others down, always negative and never has anything nice to say? You know the one that people hate to see coming at family functions because they always starting something? Is that you? Have you gotten your world so twisted that you don’t even notice anymore? You wonder why your invitation is always lost in the mail or why people leave when you walk into a room. You need to check yourself. You have to deal with your anger and your issues. James 1:19-20 says “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
You’ve allowed anger and hostility to take over your life. You’ve become so wrapped up in what people say and do that it consumes your life. My grandma always say, “Baby, they talked about Jesus Christ and he still died for our sins!” I don’t think any of us can take walking from judgment hall to judgment hall with a cross on our back, the constant beatings and being nailed to a cross, that Jesus did (when he had done no wrong). Yet he suffered and died so that we could be free to sin and then be forgiven for it. If he could deal with all of that, why can’t you deal with what folk say? Words can surely hurt but they’ve never killed. I know that it’s easier said than done to let things go, but at some point you should want a hostility free zone at home or everywhere. You should want to feel peace, love and warmth when you pull in your driveway. You should already know that home is where you can go after you’ve had a bad day at work to release it all.
Why don’t you try praying for yourself sometime? You spend all your time praying for others, that you never take time to pray for yourself. If you continue to let anger and bitterness take over you it will swallow you whole. Don’t you realize that you have to love one another if you plan on going to Heaven? The bible states in 1 John 4:20, “If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen.” You decide, today, that your life will no longer be consumed with other folk’s problems. You have to deal with whatever issue you have with whomever, today! I guarantee that once the blood stops flowing through their veins they can no longer hear you say I forgive you or I apologize or even I’m taking back my life because you no longer consume it! Let it go today before the one laying in the funeral home is you from a heart attack. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry, and yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger!” Decide today to live the life that God has promised you. It is a life worth living. If it wasn’t, God wouldn’t continue to give you new mercies every morning. Stop taking your blessings for granted because one day they won’t be there.
1 John 2:11 But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded him.