Just because no one says you’re pretty does that mean you’re not? Just because no one says you look nice does it mean you don’t? Just because no one says you’re talented does it mean you’re not? Stop waiting on FOLK to assess your value. Don’t you look in the mirror for yourself? Don’t you trust in the gifts God has given? If no one ever says/show they love you, God does! Isn’t that enough? Value yourself!
In the bible, Proverbs 31: 10-31 speaks about the value, worth & characteristics of a wife; but not just a wife but a woman. Verse 10 states; Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (some interpretations say diamonds). However, this is simply saying your worth is priceless. Why do you give it away so cheap or sometimes for free? Don’t you value yourself?
You, yes you, find a man (because you can’t wait for God to send him) that treats you any kind of way. He treats his friends better than the one that he has married, he doesn’t answer when you call and can’t be depended on if you needed him. Yet verse 11 says, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” This means he trust her with his whole heart, he will never spitefully do her wrong, and because of this she will do good by him all her life. Isn’t this the way things should be between a husband/wife; boyfriend/girlfriend?
A real woman, one who values her worth, puts God first, takes care of her husband, children and house. She is quick to stand by her man even if the decision he made falls through, she is there being his only support. She stays up late washing & ironing, preparing lunches, getting the kids backpacks together, thinking about breakfast for the next morning, what bills have to be paid on Friday, how much money she will have left for groceries and the deadline she has at work. For Proverbs 14:1 states; “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
Build up what is yours! Stop allowing mess to rule your house! Stop gossiping, lying, backbiting, judging & criticizing others. You wonder why your marriage is shaky it’s because of the “friends” you’ve shared all your secrets with. You’re so busy telling them everything that you don’t even realize they are praying for what you’ve got. By the time you realize it, it’s too late. Be slow to talk but quick to listen, (James 1:19), cause the signs are there. Can’t anybody tell you how to run your house but YOU! Even those that have been through something similar to your situation, they haven’t been through yours. You are worthy of all God has promised, but first you have to believe in you. Start with you and the rest will follow.
Prayer for today: Heavenly Father, I thank you today for all that you’ve done. I know that you have made me in your image, so I am asking you now to forgive me for not valuing my self-worth. God I know that you’ve equipped me with the things that I need to endure the hardships of this world and today I choose ME! God bless my home, keep my mind, & search my heart & if there is anything there that should not be, please take it away. I am worthy God because you made me. I will put my trust in you. God, guide my footsteps so that I may walk in your way. Guide my tongue so that I may talk like you. Guide my heart so that I may love like you. I am worthy God! Amen
Lakisha, the Author 