Isn’t it crazy that you’re worried or concerned about people who aren’t even concerned about their own self? Yea, you’re concerned because your sister is sick yet she won’t even go to the doctor. You’re worrying yourself sick because Uncle Joe is killing himself with the drugs he shoots in his vein everyday yet he continues to do so. When will you start to care about your own well-being? Listen, if you’re grown and capable of getting your own stuff together yet you choose not too, that’s your fault. What sense would it make for me to constantly take you to rehab only for you to go in and not stay? If I’m sick, I have to be responsible for taking the medicine the doctor has given me and if I make a mistake I have to face the consequences for MY actions. Stop trying to take care of folks who are capable of taking care of themselves. If a grown woman or man can’t feed him or her self and they’ve been at home all day with food or the means to feed themselves, they need to starve. If a grown man or woman are sick and won’t take themselves to the doctor, then they must like being sick. If a grown man or woman is a drug addict, alcoholic, abuser, user, liar and/or backstabber and they don’t get themselves help; then why are you stressing missing your blessing because you’re too tired to pray cause you’re too busy guessing their whereabouts? Baby, you’d better let it go. When someone is ready to help him or her self they will. I’ve said this before and I’ll throw it in for free now …God won’t take nothing from you that isn’t His because that would make Him a thief and He doesn’t steal. If you have a problem that you want God to fix, heal or remove from you; give it to Him and watch Him work it out! Don’t believe me? The bible says in Psalm 55:22, “Give your burdens to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.” This says YOU have to GIVE. Still not convinced? Read 1 Peter 5:7 which says, “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” It still hasn’t marinated in your spirit? Then go back to Psalm 37:5 and read where it says, “Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you.”
This says commit everything you do to the Lord; not your neighbors, coworkers, grown children, spouses, family and friends but what you do! No, I am not saying stop praying for folks because there isn’t anything wrong with praying for folks since this is what we are supposed to do but there is something wrong when you’re losing weight stressing over somebody else’s mess. Your son is grown and he knows he shouldn’t be with that women who keeps sending his butt to jail yet you’re up crying and signing over your house to keep getting him out. Your daughter is grown and understands full well that if she keeps lying down with everybody there’s a strong possibility she may get something antibiotics can’t cure; so why are you concerned if she isn’t? Yea, your sister knows that if she keeps failing her classes, she’ll lose her scholarship but she doesn’t seem to care, so why are you? Yea, your cousin knows that if he keeps living in the streets with an attitude that nothing can stop him, something eventually will yet he isn’t concerned, why are you? Child, do your part; which is pray for their well being and for their eyes to eventually look to God for help but that’s all you can do. You can’t make a person go to the doctor, rehab, counseling, school, church or anywhere else they don’t want to go because if you do, they either won’t stay or they won’t follow the rules. When a person is ready for help, they’ll seek it for themselves and then they’ll stick with it.
God is willing to help them but they have to make the first step. Family and friends are willing to help but they have to make the first step. The teachers are willing to help but they have to make the first step. The constant in all of the above statements is … There is help for them but THEY have to be willing to ask for it and then accept it for themselves? Why are you constantly caring when they don’t? Pray for them and then pray for and care for yourself because when you’ve worried yourself sick, they’ll still be doing the same thing it was that you worried yourself sick with. They have to care for themselves and then they have to ask for the help for themselves. You can’t help anybody that doesn’t want to help him or her self. Ask yourself the question, “Do they even care?” and if the answer is no, move on!
Lakisha, the Author 