Have you heard the expression that says don’t argue with a foolish person because someone looking might not be able to tell the difference? Well, my question would be, why argue if you know you’re right? It makes no sense to go back and forth with a person who is accusing you of something you didn’t do because the truth will speak for itself. If it didn’t then how can you explain the apology you usually received after it is over? You know how your older sister accused you of taking her stuff and after you’ve told her 50 times you don’t have it, she finds it in her room and then has to apologize. This is my point, why argue? Take as an example; on last night after my husband and I got home he was looking for the remote to the TV in the living room. Of course neither one of the kids knew where it was even though Gabby was the last one to have it. Now this makes her dad upset and they, of course go back and forth but me I keep it pushing. Why, because I knew where the remote would be, in her room. Well after looking everywhere and her “looking in her room”, my sister tells her again to go look in her room because she was the last one with it in her hands and can you guess where the remote was, in her room on her bed under mounds of clothes. Now do you see why it doesn’t do you any good to argue when you know you’re right? Really, it doesn’t do you any good to argue if you are wrong or right because what good does arguing do anyway but I’ll deal with the wrong part later. The bible says in 2 Timothy 2:23 “Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights.” Now, you know that a person who thinks you’re wrong will argue to the finish as will a person who knows they’re right, so it’s never-ending. Yea, I know that you have to try and defend yourself and your character but if you do all things in truth then it’ll show in your talk because the bible says in Colossians 4:6 “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Now the salt is in comparison to you seasoning food because if you add the right flavor to the meal you’re serving then it goes well for all those who eat it and if you add the right amount of flavor to your talk, it’ll go down just as smooth.
Don’t you know that arguing can be the death of you? If not, try arguing with a teenage girl about wearing jeans that are too tight or filled with holes. Your blood pressure is steady rising while you are screaming go change and she is sitting there looking at her phone because she knows eventually you’ll give it up and walk off. I’ve learned, from experience, that some battles are not worth arguing over. While you are still upset about an argument from yesterday, the other person has moved on and forgot about it so why are you still mad? Usually when you argue with a person who thinks you’re wrong, have lied or been unfaithful, they’ve already made their mind up and it doesn’t matter that you keep trying to tell them you haven’t done anything because through their angry eyes they can’t hear what you’re saying anyway. This is the time you allow the truth to speak for you because the bible says in John 8:32, “And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” When a person is angry there is no reasoning with them, at that point. Tell them when they’ve allowed them and the situation to cool down to come and speak with you but until then there is no argument. There is no good that will come out of 2 folks standing face to face arguing and screaming because in the end you’re left with 2 angry folks with a headache and an unresolved issue.
Psalm 37:8 says, “Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.” And you know this to be true because when you’re angry to tend to make all the wrong choices because you’ve allowed the anger and the argument from the anger to take over. Now you’re calling that co-worker who comes to your desk every day when you should have your tail at home, you’re at the bar getting drunk and then getting behind the wheel to potentially kill yourself or somebody else, when you should have been praying for guidance or you’re sending a hateful text or email with those strong emotions when you should have just waited a few days. See, arguing with a person, when you know you’re right, stirs all types of emotions within you and now you’re making all kinds of bad choices when you should have just walked away and allowed, once again, the truth to speak for you. When you’ve allowed that person who calls you a liar to take you there, they have you bound so they may as well tie your hands and feet. Galatians 5:1 says “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” When you’ve allowed anger to consume you, it has won. So, they called you a liar, are you? So what, they said you cheated, did you? Who cares they don’t believe you, do you believe? If you continue to allow angry folks to stand over you calling you a liar when you know you’re not, you’ll soon start to believe it and now they have you second guessing yourself and feeling guilty when you have done nothing. Break those chains and stand firm on your word because your word, your honest word, is all you have. Stop allowing folks to take that because they don’t believe you. Don’t argue when you know you’re right because the truth always prevails and whether it takes a few minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years, it will prevail.
Matthew 12:35 says, “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart.” So stop letting angry folks ruin your day as you know they will because there is always someone who is naturally mean for no reason, always someone who wants to argue or someone who is always ready to fight, those folks make you unbalanced. When you are unbalanced, you’re off your game and when you’re off your game you get caught slipping and when you’re slipping you’re bound to make a mistake. Keep a level head, walk away and don’t argue! Let them do them because folks who have God are supposed to have the power to handle their tongue because Proverbs 14:29 says “People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness” or John 1:19 which says, “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” . Don’t argue, calm down and then talk about it for Ephesians 4:26-27 says “And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” See, a foothold is defined as a secure starting position in order to advance. It’s like a person who climbs rocky mountains, in order for them to continue to move up, they have to place their foot into a foothold that boost them up higher and the only way for them to make it to the top, they have to keep putting their feet into footholds. Well, when we get angry with each other, the devil is grabbing our feet and the madder we get, the higher he rises until he is running things in YOUR house because you’ve given him the means to rise to the top and now you’re no longer in control and you’re so angry that your home is no longer happy and he has completed what he sat out to do. But if you, “Submit yourselves, then, to God, Resist the devil, and he will flee from you (James 4:7).” Arguing leads you to be angry and being angry turns you bitter and bitterness leads to resentment and resentment turns to hatred and hatred pushes you farther from the reach of God. Trust God and do what you know is best. Don’t argue whether you’re right or wrong because arguing never, NEVER, solves anything.
Lakisha, the Author 